Showing posts with label a fathers love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label a fathers love. Show all posts

Why does Love Hurt?
11 Best answers

1. It is the absence of mutual love that hurts.

2. Loving someone for the wrong reasons or loving only certain qualities. Not loving the whole person.

3. Loving the wrong person. You put your heart and soul out there and it gets mistreated.

4. You don’t fully understand what love is or what it means to love unconditionally.

5. You have too many expectations. It’s like you’re saying I will love you if… Many people think love has rules. There are no rules to love.

6. You blame love but it isn’t love that hurts. What hurts is being lied to, cheated on, abused, neglected, rejected, mistreated, etc.

7. You don’t have self-love. The only love to yourself is the love you expect from the other person. When you truly love yourself, the extra demand is lifted off of the other person and you can enjoy true love.

8. You are in love with how the person makes you feel and not necessarily loving the other person.

9. You don’t know how to handle or control your emotions. You take things personal.

10. You expect the fairy tale you see on television. You compare your love/relationship to someone else’s and when it doesn’t add up or look like that other image you have in your mind, you feel let down or hurt.

11. You don’t agree to disagree. You can be in love with someone who doesn’t like the same things as you or doesn’t think like you. Hey, that’s probably what drew you to them in the first place. Their uniqueness!

Today my dad would be 64. He died a few years back. Although he isn't here. he left so much for me and my siblings. I thank God I had him as my dad. If you ask anyone who knows me well, they would agree that I'm a bit of a daddy's girl. I really miss him. I thought I would allow you to read something my dad wrote for me a while ago.

A Father’s Love


"The bible says that a hoary head, which is to say a grey head, is a crown of wisdom is it’s found in the way of the Lord. Well my head is white, and I’ve been with God quite a few years.
My children are the crown of my creation, if God will permit me to put it that way. The bible also says to raise up a child in that way they ought to go, so that when he/she is old they won’t depart from it. Many times during that endeavor, the kids think that you are crazy, or maybe even don’t love them.
Never deviate from right just to prove that you love them. To them, sometimes right seems cruel or wrong. Sometimes love is tough.
A dad can’t be a buddy, a partner , a friend.
In a father, all of these virtues are found; they are factory built by God to matter to a child at the point of life when it means the most. When it pays dividends to the child that never made an investment."
James Byrd