(Recieved this through an email from my yahoo group.)

An Angel says, 'Never borrow from the future. If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and it doesn't happen, you have worried in vain. Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice.'


1. Pray
2. Go to bed on time.
3. Get up on time so you can start the day unrushed.
4. Say No to projects that won't fit into your time schedule, or that will compromise your mental health.
5. Delegate tasks to capable others.
6. Simplify and unclutter your life.
7. Less is more. (Although one is often not enough, two are often too many.)
8. Allow extra time to do things and to get to places.
9. Pace yourself. Spread out big changes and difficult projects over time; don't lump the hard things all together.
10. Take one day at a time.
11. Separate worries from concerns . If a situation is a concern, find out what God would have you do and let go of the anxiety . If you can't do anything about a situation, forget it.
12. Live within your budget; don't use credit cards for ordinary purchases
13. Have backups; an extra car key in your wallet, an extra house key buried in the garden, extra stamps, etc.
14. K.M.S. (Keep Mouth Shut). This single piece of advice can prevent an enormous amount of trouble.
15. Do something for the Kid in You everyday.
16. Carry a Bible with you to read while waiting in line.
17. Get enough rest.
18. Eat right.
19 Get organized so everything has its place.
20. Listen to a tape while driving that can help improve your quality of life.
21. Write down thoughts and inspirations.
22. Every day, find time to be alone.
23. Having problems? Talk to God on the spot. Try to nip small problems in the bud. Don't wait until it's time to go to bed to try and pray.
24. Make friends with Godly people.
25. Keep a folder of favorite scriptures on hand.
26. Remember that the shortest bridge between despair and hope is often a good 'Thank you Jesus .'
27. Laugh.
28. Laugh some more!
29. Take your work seriously, but not yourself at all.
30. Develop a forgiving attitude (most people are doing the best they can).
31. Be kind to unkind people (they probably need it the most).
32. Sit on your ego.
33 Talk less; listen more.
34. Slow down.
35. Remind yourself that you are not the general manager of the universe.
36 Every night before bed, think of one thing you're grateful for that you've never been grateful for before. GOD HAS A WAY OF TURNING THINGS AROUND FOR YOU.


'If God is for us, who can be against us?'


(Romans 8:31)






It's a fact, change is a part of everyday life. Our attitude and emotions change, our environments change, people around us change. Like it or not, things are going to change. We can't do anything about that fact but we can accept it and go with the flow. Let change guide you. Instead of trying to manipulate things around you, you might just need to adjust your attitude. Im not telling you anyting new.
Change is a part of what makes you who you are. You can choose to let it make you better or you can let it ruin you.
I'll have to admit, I never welcome change at first. My life would be pretty lame if things did not change. I probably wouldn't be here right now if I had not let change guide me to new places and possibilities.

I didn't like how things changed after my dad passed. My dad was my life, my guide, my instructions, my answers, my confidence, my protector. I knew as long as he was around, I didn't have much to worry about. I didn't even have to look things up in the dictionary because he could explain every word to me and I would understand it clearly.
My dad taught me, gave me everything I needed to fly, I just felt I didn't need to fly on my own with him around.

Another father figure came along, sat beside me, on that little branche and spoke to me. He helped me remember my father's guidance and wisdom. He helped me find my confidence and strength to spread my wings and take off.




Sometimes change hurts us. Sometimes people hurt us. We go through those
hurts, pains and loneliness to get us to the next level.
I know how it feels to be lied to, cheated on, taken advantage of, talked about, unwanted. It sucks! (That's and understatement) But it made me so much stronger. At this moment, It doesn't feel like I'm that much stronger but when I think about where I've been, how others have dealt with things like this, I can clearly see that I have come a long way and I am better than I was yesterday.

I used to wonder why my past relationship didn't last. What did I do or say that was so bad that the relationship I worked so hard to keep together failed. The answer??

To be honest, I don't have an answer for that. But I can say, I learned soooo much going through what I went through. I was young, fresh out of high school, never been away from my parents, never had to get a job during my high school years. I had a car to drive, a mobile phone in the car and a pager! But soon after I graduated, I left for the military. I met my spouse as soon as I got to my first duty station. I met him the second day I got there. After I met him and started hanging out with him,
I paid attention to no one else. I got pregnant and got married within a year. I didn't give myself time to get to know him. How is he when he gets pissed off? Does he clean? Does he like kids? Does he drink? Smoke? Go out? Is he a family man? How does he treat his mama? Sister? Does he go to church? Do these things even matter to me?

I said "I do" before I was able to answer ALL of these questions. We didn't have or even know what it would begin to take to be able to
stand together through all of the changes we both would go through. Now I will probably never know everything I need to know about love, relationships/marriage.. But what I do know is that in my future relationship, I am on a higher level and I know how to protect and fight for my life, my love, my future. Because I was hurt, I don't want the one I love to feel any bit of how I felt. There's no way I will betray or step outside of my home, my life and my relationship. It's not worth it. There is so much more in life to see, to do, to love. I want to spend the rest of my life, sharing the changes, ups, downs, highs and lows with my partner and going to each and every different level TOGETHER.

Without the changes in my past, I would not know how to value and appreciate what God has for me. I have Faith. I have hope. I have Love...
All because of change.


Someone I work with recently told me to "Snap Out Of It". They were right. It's time to do just that. Wether times are good or bad, we still have to dig deep and grab hold of whatever we have to stay afloat. I feel, the things I go through, hard and impossible times, times when I see no light at the end and even times when I feel alone, they are steps directing me to that Next Level I always speak of. It's really hard to smile and keep going when you feel you have nothing going for you, but patience is the key. Keep going. Keep working. Keep writing. There's always going to be that day when you realize that storm is over, you feel good because you got through it and you feel different. It's kind of like going through a tough workout or even a run. I hate running! I do think it has to do with Asthma or something but I don't run. When I do run, it sucks getting through it but boy do I feel good when it's all done. The effort I put into it, the fact that I didn't quit not one time. Next time I run, I have a goal to push just alittle longer than the last time. Eventually the run will be effortless and I can then set a different goal that will push me even harder and take me to an even higher level.

Life is the same way. Quitting and giving up is not an option. I have kids and I definately can't them see me quit. It they watch us quit and give up all the time, how can we expect them to not do the same? I encourage you to keep praying and have faith and hope. I used to hate hearing people say have faith, have hope. I felt like I did have faith and hope but I always seemed to lacking something. I never felt complete. But what completes me is knowing God has my back. Knowig I have a second chance because Jesus gave His life so I don't have to suffer and feel alone. I'm sure Jesus felt alone on the cross. Im sure He felt all the things we feel today.

You have to open up and let God do His work in you. We aren't robots. We aren't characters in a video game where we are being controlled. God wants us to come to Him, seek Him and let him in. He opens His arms up to you, but YOU have to take the step and enter in. You have to hope your heart and say, Lord help me, change me, make me whole. He will..If you let Him.